Gods Letter to Married Man

And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Ephesians 5:25

to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. Ephesians 5:26-27

For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Ephesians 5:23

In the same way, a husband should love his wife as much as he loves himself. A husband who loves his wife shows that he loves himself. None of us hate our own bodies. We provide for them and take good care of them, just as Christ does for the church, Ephesians 5:28-29

Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her? 1 Corinthians 7:3

Husbands, go all out in love for your wives. Don’t take advantage of them. Col. 3:19

In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. 1 Peter 3:7

If you are a husband, you should be thoughtful of your wife. 1 Peter 3:7

Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. 1 Peter 3:7

Be faithful to your own wife and give your love to her alone. Proverbs 5:15

Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. Hebrews 13:4

Remain loyal to the wife of your youth. Malachi 2:15

Enjoy life with the wife you love. Eccles. 9:9

So be happy with your wife and find your joy with the woman you married Proverbs 5:18

“Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another and is an adulteress. Love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes.” Hosea 3:1

When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed. Better is it that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay. – Ecclesiastes 5:4-5

“In the way of righteousness is life, And in its pathway there is no death” (Proverbs 12:28).

“The LORD repay your work, and a full reward be given you by the LORD God of Israel, under whose wings you have come for refuge” (Ruth 2:12).

“But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD” (Joshua 24:15).

He will not allow his sons to be carried away by false teaching (cf. Titus 2:6-8); he will not allow his daughters to sully their reputation by immodest dress (cf. 1 Timothy 2:9-10); and his headship is not burdensome to his precious wife (cf. Ephesians 5:28-29).

“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered” (1 Peter 3:7).

He is to always love his wife as his own body, nourishing and cherishing her, even as Christ does the Church (Ephesians 5:28-29).

He is to keep on rendering and giving back to her that which he owes her as his wife (1 Corinthians 7:3)

Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.” Colossians 3:19

Husbands are to bring God glory through meeting his wife’s NEEDS
(Ephesians 5:25-32)

“Do not be anxious then, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘With what shall we clothe ourselves?’ For all these things the Gentiles eagerly seek; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you” (Matthew 6:31-33).

Do not lay up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there will your heart be also” (Matthew 6:19-21).

Now to the one who works, his wage is not reckoned as a favor but as what is due. But to the one who does not work, but believes in Him who justifies the ungodly, his faith is reckoned as righteousness (Romans 4:4-5).

Wisdom is a shelter as money is a shelter, but the advantage of knowledge is this: that wisdom preserves the life of its possessor Eccl 7:12

Stolen water is sweet; food eaten in secret is delicious!” But little do they know that the dead are there, that her guests are in the depths of the grave Pr. 9:17-18

Whoever looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery in his heart (Matthew 5:27–28)

But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; 4 neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. 5 For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Ephesians 5:3-5

“What comes out of a man, that defiles a man. 21 For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, 22 thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, licentiousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness. 23 All these evil things come from within and defile a man.” Mark 7:20-23

A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:10-11)

A hot tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel (Pr. 15:18).

Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips (Pr. 4:24).

Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; someone else, and not your own lips (Pr. 27:2).

A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue (Pr. 11:12).

The man of integrity walks securely, but he who takes crooked paths will be found out (Pr. 10:9).

The noble man makes noble plans, and by noble deeds he stands (Is. 32:8).

The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice (Pr. 12:14).

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it (Heb. 12:11)

Whoever spreads slander is a fool (Pr. 10:18b)

Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech (1 Pet. 3:10).

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs (1 Cor. 13:4-5).

The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Gal. 5:22-23a).

A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult (Pr. 12:16)

Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man and he will add to his learning (Pr. 9:9).

… “…Obey my laws and do what I command. I am the Lord your God.
Follow the practices and the laws that I give you; you will save your life by doing so. I am the Lord…” Leviticus 18:4-5

Love,
God- The Father!

God’s Letter for Married Women!

Dear women,
This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:23

Woman as the helper, life-giver, and nurturer Genesis 1:27; 1 Corinthians 11:8-12

I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you. Genesis 3:16

But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety. 1 Timothy 2:15

In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands, even those who refuse to accept the Good News. Your godly lives will speak to them better than any words. They will be won over Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight . That is the way the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands. For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, when she called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do. 1 Peter 3:1-6

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 2:3-5

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:3-5

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Colossians 3:18

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30

A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones .Proverbs 12:4

There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. Galatians 3:8

But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:34

I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. 1 Timothy 2:9-10

A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this. Deuteronomy 22:5

You will keep in perfect peace in him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you. Isaiah 26:3

But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5

Train a child when young…old not depart .Prov 22:6

Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. 1 Corinthians 7:5

A kindhearted woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth. Proverbs 11:16

Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak Matthew 26:41

Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12

In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent Psalm 4:4

Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies. Psalm 34:13

A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent. 1 Timothy 2:11-12

For the revelation awaits an appointed time; it speaks of the end and will not prove false. Though it linger, wait for it; it will certainly come and will not delay. Habakkuk 2:3

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world. Ephesians 6:12-13

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7.

He heals the Brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

For nothing is impossible with God. Luke 1:37

You may not know me, but I know everything about you. Psalm 139:1

Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

Love,

The Holy God

Before and After Marriage

If you want to have a happy family, read dialogue below, but don’t practice on.

Before Marriage

Man: Finally, I have waited this time since along time ago.

Woman: Are you willing if I will go?

Man: Oh, sure not! Don’t think like that.

Woman: Do you love me?

Man: Sure! It will be forever.

Woman: Are you dating with another women?

Man: No! I shall not do that worst thing.

Woman: Would you kiss me?

Man: Yes.

Woman: Honey…

After Marriage

Read the dialogue above from below.

A Husband’s Sexual Sins

We live in a sexually-saturated culture. Everywhere, we’re bombarded with risque images. So-called “sex appeal” is used to market everything from cereal to perfume to automobiles.

Most of the time, we can ignore these examples of the ways humans have perverted God’s holy gift. Sometimes, though, the problem hits close to home.

Learning that your husband is involved with pornography or some other kind of sexual sin is devastating. It rocks the foundation of a marriage. It shatters trust. It generates a host of painful feelings: shock, anger, fear, and sadness.

What do you do? Where do you turn for help?

If you’re faced with your husband’s inappropriate sexual behavior, you are not alone. Hundreds of thousands of men in this country — including Christians — struggle with sexual sin. Experts estimate as much as 6-10 % of the adult population is sexually addicted. Conservatively, around 50 percent of men admit to viewing online pornography. The Church is not immune. A survey of attendees at Promise Keepers events revealed that 2/3 had been or were involved with pornography. Christianity Today reported that a survey of Christian pastors revealed 1/3 were involved with online pornography. Because of the availability, anonymity, and affordability of the Internet, sexual addiction has become the addiction of choice among many Christians.

You should know that there is reason for hope. Your husband can achieve and maintain sexual integrity. He doesn’t have to remain enslaved. Help is available. If he chooses, he can take advantage of tools that will help him guard his heart and change his behavior. I know this to be true. I was addicted to pornography, and by the grace of God and much hard work, I have been free for over 15 years.

As distressing as this may be, it can also be the beginning of a journey into the intimate marriage you’ve always wanted. Remember, pinpointing the problem is the first step to finding a solution.

If your husband has been acting out sexually, he’s obviously been impaired, as the spiritual partner God wants him to be. Jesus is clear that even thinking inappropriate sexual thoughts is adultery (Matthew 5). Addressing this secret in his life can remove the barriers to intimacy between you.

My wife and I have experienced new levels of intimacy that we never dreamed possible. We’ve also worked with hundreds of couples who have grown from the brokenness of sexual sin into a relationship blessed by honesty, vulnerability and genuine connection.

Consider getting help for yourself, even if your husband is not willing to pursue help personally. You can enter recovery, regardless of his choices. The first step is to realize that the problem is not about you, your personality, your appearance or your sexual availability. We have worked with wives who were fashion models and Hollywood actresses, and their husbands were sexually unfaithful.

The next step is to realize that you are totally powerless over your spouse’s sexual sin. You are the only person you can change. You can’t change your husband, but you can learn how to set appropriate boundaries against inappropriate and sinful behavior. You can choose to take actions that are helpful for yourself and your marriage. You can find support and fellowship with others who are on a similar journey. You can rest in God’s faithfulness to provide for your needs.

A variety of good resources are available for the escalating problem of pornography. Learn all you can about sexual addiction and the recovery process. Take advantage of programs that assist spouses of addicts. Break the silence and ask for help today.

10 Keys to a Healthy Step Family

1. You must “connect” with the children at their point of emotional need. Remarriage is a challenge for everyone, but especially the children. For most children, their parent’s decision to remarry represents the loss of the dream that their biological parents will reunite. Even children whose parents had a terrible relationship have the fantasy that someday everyone will be happy. The grief associated with this loss is painful and can last a long time.

2. Encourage your children to talk about their feelings. You may not like everything you hear, but your children need a safe and nurturing environment to respectfully share their emotions. The best way to encourage your children to open up is to set the example. When you are transparent about your feelings you foster the security and trust they long for.

3. Have realistic expectations. Getting to know each other will take time. You will not experience instant intimacy, trust and respect. The expectation of quickly becoming “one big happy family” will set you up for disappointment every time. Hope deferred makes the heart sick? Prov. 13:12.

4. Establish new family traditions and rituals. Every family needs to develop its own culture. By establishing traditions and rituals for your new family you provide a greater sense of belonging for everyone involved. Including the children in the process will increase their level of support and cooperation.

5. Be sensitive to traditions that have already been established in your child’s life, even if they don’t include you. If your child has always visited their grandparents for a week during the summer or spent Christmas Eve with their non-custodial parent, don’t suddenly change those traditions. The resentment your child may feel could undermine all your efforts to create new, positive memories.

6. Don’t trash your child’s other biological parent. By showing respect and civility to the other biological parent you minimize conflict and actually strengthen your relationship with your children. As bad as some situations can get, control your feelings and comments. So then, let us pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another. Romans 14:19.

7. The marriage relationship must be a priority. Every successful blended family has one common characteristic – a strong bond between the husband and wife. Couples in blended families have incredible distractions in their lives compared to most first marriages. Ex-spouses, in-laws, financial obligations, new schools and new homes can rock the foundation of the marriage.

8. Parents must clearly define and consistently follow through with rules for discipline. Many stepparents tend to be too lenient with their new stepchildren in hopes of winning their acceptance and approval. This approach never works. All children need and expect to have boundaries in place, and consistent discipline is one of the most effective and powerful ways of communicating love and respect.

9. Both parents must be involved in establishing the rules for discipline. Parents must always present a unified front when enforcing the rules. Children are very smart and will try to figure out how to play their parents against one another. Parents who don’t allow their unity to be broken are much more likely to gain respect and obedience from their children.

10. Place God in the center of your home. The ultimate key to every family’s success, no matter what the circumstances are, is choosing to make God the centerpiece of your home. To be the kind of parent or spouse you want to be requires wisdom, patience and love. The best way for you to develop these character traits is to have a vibrant relationship with God. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and all these things shall be added to you. Matt. 6:33